I had another ultrasound yesterday at 15w6d since I’m an old lady. I had two ultrasounds total last time and this time I’m on my fourth already with one more to follow. Wow. I asked if they could tell the gender at this one and the tech said yes if the baby cooperated. Baby was very cooperative and had its legs splayed wide open.
The result?
If you can’t/won’t/don’t want to watch videos*, this baby is a GIRL. The tech was quite sure. The view was very clear. There was nothing poking out between the legs and the telltale signs of female anatomy were visible.
My intuition and some scientific evidence has been telling me all along that this was a girl. A long time ago while I was dating The Mister, I had what I would call a vision. We were married and on some kind of road trip. I looked into the back seat and saw my 2 children – a boy and a girl. It was a weird thing to happen and that picture always stuck with me. Yeah maybe it was just the “vision” of a perpetually single woman finally in a good relationship hoping for a bright family-filled future…maybe not given the news.
On the non woo/spiritual/touch-feely side, science has fallen on the side of girl too. My pregnancy hasn’t been much different except for the lack of insane all-consuming hunger that I experienced with Lewis. That points to girl. There’s also the Ramzi theory. At my dating ultrasound (6 weeks), I asked what side the placenta implanted on and the tech said left. Ramzi says that indicates a girl in 97.5% of ultrasounds taken that early.
The Mister is excited. He didn’t have a gender preference – he just wanted to know prior to the birth. My family is out cruising the high seas right now so they haven’t reacted to the news yet. My mom will be ecstatic because she loves buying baby clothes and clothing for boys is just not as cool. I predict lots of headbands and dresses coming my way soon. Oh boy. I’ve already warned her that I can’t stomach the tutu thing. Just no.
I am getting used to the idea now that I have confirmation. I am still scared to death about having to do anyone’s hair. I know I have some non-black readers (hey y’all! 
), so I’ll explain. The hair thing is a little different for most African-American babies because depending on the texture, it doesn’t just lay down neatly. The texture can also completely change about a year after they are born. Lewis had soft small loose curls that turned into tight coils.
You have to put some real work into hair. Remember that episode of Grey’s Anatomy where Bailey reamed McDreamy about the state of Zola’s hair? Yeah, all of that! I have very thick, coarse hair – like two heads worth. I’m in for a time of it if this child takes after me. Maybe my mother-in-law will move down here before April so she can help because she braided Lewis’ hair quite nicely!
Baby Afro
After Grandma Hooked My Hair Up
I guess I will figure it out and I’m sure I’m in for some painful sessions where I try to make my unskilled fingers coerce a wriggling toddlers hair into a work of art. In the meantime, I’m happy that everything looks good so far and I’m working on narrowing down my list of girl names. Rest assured that Daphne and Velma are NOT on that list. My son’s government name is uh…special.
*Definitely add this song to your running playlist if it isn’t there! I swear I break into a (slow) sprint everytime it plays.
Awww congrats! And yes, about hair. I still get chills thinking about doing my daughter’s hair. It really is a process!
Oh goodness. The only people that don’t seem apprehensive about doing hair are people like Krissy and Christina who are borderline hairstylists already LOL. The rest of us will struggle!
Congrats. I have one of each too and it’s wonderful. And I completely understand about the hair. I had my daughter in a little fro until she was almost 6 months old because I didn’t know what to do but throw on a headband or a bow. She was born with a thick head of curls.
That’s first combing was murder and I tell folks don’t wait. Puff balls are the best recipe.. Puff balls like mickey mouse, top and back, lower, higher. Two simple puff balls. I used good ol’ vitapointe and not much else. Now with all the natural hair care stuff you can probably find a bunch of good detanglers and cute styles.
I think Afro puffs will be my friend. That’s what my mom did with my hair. Until I got older and she decided to pull out that straightening comb…shudders. Where will I find time to do all of this hair, I wonder? I wear my own hair in a bun because I don’t have time to fool with it.
Congrats on your baby girl!! Wishing you a very healthy and happy pregnancy and delivery!
Can’t wait to see what kind of cute hair-do’s you can do with MIL and babygirl!
Me either. Because if I manage a cute style it will be a miracle. I will be the first one to applaud myself.
Congrats on the baby girl! And I had to go back and see…..
Scooby??????????
Yes, Lewis, he looks like a Lewis…
Yep SMH. Sigh. He will always be Lewis to me though!
Yay for baby girls! I’m glad you included the hair explanation because I had no idea it was such a difficult process. I apparently have it much easier in the hair department…at least until she starts asking for Katniss style braids
Yeah it is a challenge. My hair is processed (with a relaxer) to be straighter and IMO easier to deal with. It isn’t my natural texture. My child won’t have processed hair until she is much, much older so I have to learn how to deal with her hair. If it would just lie down flat that would be easy. That’s not going to happen. Most people do braids and all kinds of ponytails because otherwise the hair would just be an afro. Doing all these braids and stuff scares the crap out of me because you need skill!
Congrats on baby girl! Your household will be even, LOL! Let me tell you I believe in visions! I envisioned both my kids before they were born and was right about both of them.
I can’t remember what the kids looked like or who was older because they were like 6-8 year old children. I just saw boy and girl and knew they were mine. I guess because I generally don’t dream, when something funny happens that I can remember with clarity, I believe it. I think people can get little twinkles of whatever you want to call it every now and again. Or maybe I just read too much Stephen King.
Congratulations! It’s pretty cool that your intuition and the early evidence turned out to be spot on.
Thank you! It is kind of neat. I don’t put much trust in those other folk myths (like baby’s HR, salt/sweet cravings) but science is another thing!
Congrats on the babygirl!! Wishing you a smooth pregnancy.
So far, so good. It can be so bad so I am thankful that things have been easy so far.
Congrats on the baby girl!! I have faith that you will be able to comb her hair very well when the time comes. I know I was following you then.. maybe I was lurking or something because I don’t know HOW I missed Scooby. I will not laugh.
He does look like a Lewis tho and those pics are adorbs!! Congrats again!!!
Yep. Truth be told, I’ve even started to call him by his real name sometimes. And don’t call him “Scooby Doo” because he will correct you with a quickness and a stern toddler face. It is so funny. I wonder if he’s going to eventually go by Lewis by choice? I hope so!
So excited for you! Definitely get some tutorials from the MIL on the hair – my niece is African American and when she stays with us (4yrs old) her hair is a bit of a wreck because my braids suck. I feel bad that she has to put up with crazy hair over here. I need more practice!
My fear. I don’t even know how to do my own hair beyond basic styles because I’ve just never been into the hair/makeup thing. I can braid but not style hair if you know what I mean. Style involves positioning and all that stuff. So nervous! Maybe The Mister can get involved. My best friend’s stepdad did the best hairstyles ever because he was a single dad for a while.
I find it so interesting that Beyonce introduced the sex of your kids! I hated that song at first…now I love it! I am a total Bey stan. Ipod is full of her and Destiny Child music.
Congratulations, Kia! I still think you should name her Disco Diva!
I know right? I’m not even a die-hard Beyonce stan. I didn’t like that song at first either. Then I randomly added it to my playlist and the realized how hard that beat goes when I’m running. Throw in a little female empowerment and I’m so down with it now.
You know how I feel about alternative spellings. If you have a common name, it should be spelled in the way most people expect to spell it. Otherwise, you can’t get mad if people mix it up.
Yay!! I was right! What do I win!? lol
Congrats Kia. I really am excited for you. S.Lewis is gonna be a great big brother and I think even more so with a baby sister he’ll want to protect.
I told you, holla at me if you need hair tips. I’m serious about that. I’ve been doing it so long before jas I know all the tricks of the trade when it comes to most types of hair texture.
Oh I predict baby girl to be brown like you. If im right about this one I’ll be expecting a prize for sure lol
I WILL be looking for hair help – most definitely! I would love to have a little brown girl. S.Lewis was a pale little thing who matches The Mister’s complexion. Can I get one this time?!?
Congratulations again!! So excited for you and the family. I cannot do hair to save my life so of course I have a daughter with a head full of hair! 8 years later and I still can’t do anything beyond a twist or a plait, but the kiddo is always – okay – usually presentable about the head. It’ll come to you – no worries!
LoveGirl’s hair always looks neat. You give me hope! I guess I only need to master a few basics. Maybe a head full of hair would be good because it will be easy to braid at least.
Congratulations on your little girl
Can’t wait to see her 
Hey you! Me either.
Congratulations! I had a little girl eons ago, (she’s 19 now) and I couldn’t WAIT until she was born. I never had confirmation of a girl as she never cooperated during sonograms, however, I felt her always crossed legs were that of a young lady. =)
My suggestion whenever you get to styling your daughter’s hair is to always make sure it’s moist.. a spritz of water and a little bit of some type of water based moisturizer, it will make styling much easier on the both of you (and prevents breakage) Puffs are super adorable and when her hair is longer, twisted ponytails are lovely.. complete with colorful “bo-bos” and barretts.
I have 3 sisters and a mom that is all about hair.. I know alot about hair.. relaxed and natural. If you ever need any advice, I’d be happy to help. =)
uh oh. Watch out now! LOL! the girls will keep you on your toes, momma! And that baby is gonna make Daddy’s heart melt into a fine puddle of sweet-mush.
I struggle with Greedy Baby’s hair. Never had hair skillz. Can’t even cornrow. Thank God my older daughter had the desire to learn it on her own…
Awww congrats!